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Obituaries I Distinct Funeral Services I Southland I NZ Leave a tribute View Service Sheet Cocker Print Page Gary Arthur Thursday, 1 November 1956 Born: Passed: Friday, 16 August 2024 whakataka te hau ki te uru whakataka te hau ki te tonga After an epic battle, which he faced with courage, Gary passed away at Southland Hospice on Friday. He died being held by his beloved husband Bevan and with the music of Frankie goes to Hollywood in the air. Gary was the devoted son of the late Doris (Donovan) and she was always in his heart. He was the cherished dad and father-in-law of Olivia and Paul Graham of Te Anau. He was immensely proud of Olivia, and her wedding to "a good bugger" was one of the highlights of his life. Gary was a much-loved and respected brother and brother-in-law of Darryl and Lorraine, Kevin, Kalo, Sally, Cath and Stephen, as well as Marilyn and the late Rob, Elaine and Syd, and Glenda and Colin, and a much-loved uncle to all their children and their children. To know Gary was to care how he thought of you, and he had many longstanding friends. Of note are Lester, Diane, Christine, Ray, Jan and Marianne because of their loving support to Gary over the past months, but his list of friends was extensive and every friendship was valued. Sincere thanks to the Medical teams that provided care to Gary, and the wonderful staff at Hospice Southland. Gary has been cremated and his ashes will be scattered at Ringaringa at a future time. Livestream Please find a link to the livestream below Dearest Gary, What a beautiful man, what a gorgeous heart. Thank you for being in my life, thank u for ur love, your deep kindness, ur listening ear, and your wise presence. Much aroha ki a koe as you journey on dear friend. In gratitude Love to u Bevan n all ur friends n whanau Crea xx I lived with Gary from 1986 to 1995. It was a traumatic time for gay men to be alive because of the devastation and community changes AIDS brought. Gary and I were at the heart of our community’s response. Under this ever-present cloud, life went on. We lived with his close friend Jan, and Mingus the cat in Grey Lynn. Gary continued working in astrology and naturopathy and branching out into art as he became more connected to his Tongan roots, something he was both proud and terrified of. He went from photography to brightly coloured, enormous, canvas-backed paintings. We had a few years on Waiheke Island where in the summer he could be found baking in the sun on Palm Beach, having deep discussions with friends over for the weekend, cooking Irish Soda Bread for lunch, or rescuing his mum from the long drop toilet when the hole gave way beneath. A somewhat idyllic life. Then back to the chaos of K’Rd and an enormous basement area in which he created a world fit for Kings and a medieval court banquet, beautiful in summer and bloody cold in winter. But life changes. We went our separate ways and he settled with his beloved Bevan on their beloved Rakiura. It was bittersweet that he spent his last couple of weeks in Chch where I was fortunate to keep him company and supply his daily hit of coffee. Those ten years were the closest I have ever been to family in the true sense. A family created by Gary and his friends. He was a remarkable person. Incredibly handsome, softly-spoken, intelligent and loving and I am incredibly proud to have known him in this lifetime. Moe mai, moe mai, moe mai ra e hoa! Gary, I treasure the times we had together, working with you and then over the following years spending time around the table for coffee, tea and scones. It was such a privilege to know you & have my life enriched by your friendship. You shared your love, wisdom and generous spirit in a quiet way. Your kind eyes glowed with humour and you had a fantastic laugh that lit up the room, these times I will remember with love forever. Di I am so blessed to have known and loved Gaz for close to 40 years. Through him I have met some incredible people and had some great experiences. Stand out memories were when we dug up the backyard in Fisherton Street, in Grey Lynn, and put down an umu for 100 people. This was to celebrate Gary's 30th birthday. The house was heaving and the food was stunning. Fish curries in whole pumpkins etc. A great night, although one the neighbours wouldn't have appreciated. The Fisherton Street cottage benefited greatly from Gaz's talents. Over a few wines the floors would be painted, lounge walls given a fresco look, mood lighting added, and always colour, lots of colour. Gaz was always years ahead of his time around healthy eating, making nut milks and wheat grass juices, vile smoothies, bircher oatmeal, going sugar free etc. The medieval banquet for Ray's 40th birthday was another great event (St Kevins arcade flat, in K Rd). Months in the planning. I remember trying to source quail and quail eggs and making costumes for the event. Again fabulous food. Spending weekends on Waiheke Island with Gaz and Ray. Soaking up the sun on Palm Beach, swimming and reading. Heaven. Travelling to Rakiura for Gaz and Bevan's wedding was a highlight. Walking into the local dairy and seeing a big decorated chalkboard sign over the counter congratulating Gary and Bevan on their wedding day. Such a nice touch, showing they had been accepted into the small close-knit community. I watched in amazement as friends rocked up to the house at Ringaringa with sacks full of fish and mussels to share. The greenhouse, at the back of the house, full of lush, beautiful vegetables grown by Bevan. The food at the wedding carefully chosen by Gaz. Art on a plate. A really special happy, loving day for everyone. I will treasure the time we spent with Gaz and Bevan on Rakiura in early 2023. My friend Rowena and I thought it was one of the best holidays we had ever had. Fabulous hosts, great food - paua pies, fish curry and we even saw seven kiwis. Superb. Gaz lived life to the full. He never settled on mediocre. Always learning and trying new things. He was multitalented, creative, kind, positive, generous and so warm-hearted. It was eight years ago yesterday that X Rays picked up lung cancer in Gaz. At that time he was given a few months to live. He was so determined to beat the cancer and get well. He put up a great fight and crammed in lots of travel and adventures. Even a few days before his passing he was trying to get home to Rakiura and Bevan, his love. Gaz you will be so sadly missed. XXX Jan Falconer To Gaz’s community and especially, his closest family. It’s hard to sum up a friendship that dates back to maybe the late seventies, just as it’s hard to imagine never speaking with such a dear friend as Gary ( Gaz) again !! – my thoughts are with all those for whom he was a dearly loved family member, husband, brother, artistic collaborator, and devoted ‘dad’ to Olivia and Loki, the cat. I’m not sure when Gary became Gaz to me and others, but it feels like almost forever. Such a dear man; a gentle spirit about him; someone always with his finger on the current culinary pulse and health trend… it was on Waiheke that I believe Gaz served up a chia pudding – who’d heard of such a thing. He was an inspired whole foods cook but his cooking was never stodgy or bland – always infused with the freshest of ingredients and chocka full of fresh herbs – every meal was a discovery. The time at Palm Beach is also memorable for the ingenious way he and Ray worked out colours for their house – by each eliminating colours they couldn’t stand and painting everything with those that were left… This is a method that I’ve quoted to other couples but I'm unsure how many have taken it up… There was also an attempt to stop mossies breeding in the water tank by floating kerosene on the surface.. it may have worked for someone else, but at Palm Beach, it meant the water – at least over our visit - was undrinkable... However, there was always delicious food to discover and share. I recall the first time Rainer and I visited together, and we all discovered Rainer didn’t know paw paw… we gathered around to watch him taste this ‘new sensation’ and were seriously disappointed when he was frankly underwhelmed. Fair enough – it was the mango season after all! Gaz always had frangipani on the deck… Then later, the massive flat at the end of St Kevins’s arcade… pictures of the Medieval feast created in colourful detail, including costumes – I was living in DN then: nothing like it here! – the walk through the park down to Queen Street Parties at Jan’s house in Fisherton Street; digging up the back yard for an umu before the deck was created and discovering all this great soil that had been there all the long, while the vege patch struggled… Gaz’s paintings… one of which came our way sometime after 1994 ( see image) and was given the space it deserved when we moved into this new house in 2021 … Gaz’s efforts, along with Bevan's, to create a warm tropical space in their home on Rakiura so this Tongan man could feel the warmth he so enjoyed. Then four + years ago, the shock and disbelief of his diagnosis – how could this be? Grade four lung cancer in a non smoker?? And one so healthy… Another reminder of the randomness of genes and the uncertainty of life’s trajectory. How hard our Gaz worked to stay alive -!! The surgeries he stoically endured, in the hopes of being able to regain mobility to make it possible to again live on Rakiura without having to rely too heavily on his darling Bevan to move him about… I marvelled at the strength of his will to live, (though I could have done without some of those post surgery pictures -while the caption said ‘it doesn’t hurt’, my eyes refused to believe it … ) Dear Gaz. So hard to accept you’re no longer of this world. We will miss your bright spirit; your generousity towards others; your capacity to accept and embrace difference in many forms. Your love for your friends, family and your husband Bevan. We are glad to have known you; that warmth of your loving spirit lives on in us and all those you were dear to. Xxo Marianne It was a true honour to get to know Gary over the last year. I feel honoured to have worked beside him to present his sumptuous, teasingly beautiful photographs of Christine Hellyar's aprons from 1985 at the Govett-Brewster Art Gallery. I am so incredibly grateful for his time, patience, gentleness, wit and generosity. I will so fondly remember the afternoon I spent with him on Rakiura, overlooking the sea, while he recalled his career in Tāmaki Makaurau. Gary made an important contribution to the queer and contemporary Pacific art scenes in Tāmaki Makaurau in the 1980s and 1990s playing an active role in the community response to the HIV epidemic in its early days. He will live on through this contribution—through the artworks he produced, and the vision he pursued, as well as within the communities he supported and uplifted. Moe māi rā, Gary. Simon Gennard Dear Bevan So devastated to hear (from mates in London!) of your loss. What a brave and courageous battle you two had fought. Thank God you have such a network of support around or near you, mate. Take care, X Craig & Leon in Hamurana Bevan, I didn't know till Church this morning that your lovely Gary had died. I'm so sorry. He was a very special person and even through his long period of illness, he remained a valued part of the community. We will miss him. and your home will be feeling so empty of his companionship. You will be in my prayers. Beverly Osborn Gary you are a true friend and true gentleman who along with Bevan showed so much love towards myself and Betty. We'll think of you often. Peace Si & Betty Gary, You have left an indelible impression in my life; you will continue to inspire me to face adversity with acceptance and courage, to choose happiness, to live with integrity, to love with abandon, to smile and even laugh through the pain. Your cup appeared persistently overflowing, even in drought. Thank you for letting me in and for touching my life so profoundly- I am richer because of you. XXOO Shawna Stephens Dear Gary, What a privilege it was to have connected with you. A gentle, kind soul with a natural warmth, friendly eyes and lovely smile. I miss you; the coffees ☕️, the fairy lights ✨️ and the flowers 💐 fussing Loki and laughing with Bevan. I'm glad to have known you - I gained so much from our short acquaintance 💓 Pip Leask Darling Gary... Kynd and gentle soul. At last painfree We will miss yew sorely But will hold your precious Memoryz close within our Heartz Fly high, be free. Anyta and Peter xXX Gary, we met all those years ago at Auckland Airport. I felt I had known you forever. Such an accepting, loving man, never a cross word (unless you were referring to a Mudie card game). How fortunate for Rob and I, that you and Bevan decided to use our holiday home on Rakiura, Stewart Island. Like us, you both fell in love with the Island, its Beauty and relaxed way of life and chose to move from Auckland to Ringaringa (what a view you had). All those wonderful sunrises that you and Bevan were so generous sharing with the family. We shared the love of food, creating and sharing lots of recipes. My paua pies and pav rolls, always were some of your favourites, your blue cheese and spinach loaf and seafood curry were mine. I feel privileged and honoured that I had the opportunity to spend time, share memories and assist you during the later stages of your illness. Love you Mazz Marilyn GARY Such a strong and gentle soul. Always a friendly smile (or cheeky grin) with a genuine interest in how we were doing and what was happening in our lives. Your strength and determination have been an inspiration. You will be sadly missed!! You have left so many precious memories for us all to share. Our warmest thoughts are with Bevan and all your family and friends. Rest peacefully now dear Gary. Sending luv’n hugs Bonnie & Fluff 🥀 WELL YOUNG MAN TAKEN FAR TOO EARLY IN LIFE NEVER TO BE FORGOTTEN, A MAN WITH A CALMING AURA AROUND HIM. ALWAYS FELT SAFE AND CALM WITH YOU MY FRIEND. WON'T FORGET ONE OF YOUR CHOICES IN HOSPITAL WHEN WE HAD THE PLEASURE OF CALLING TO SEE YOU IN BURWOOD, JUST BEFORE YOU PASSED. YOU HAD CRISPS, REAL COFFEE AND THEN A SANDWICH WAS DELIVERED. YOU TOLD ME IT WAS JUST AS YOU ORDERED. WHO SAID HOSPITAL FOOD WASN'T GOOD. I WILL NEVER KNOW WHICH ONE YOU CHOSE TO EAT FIRST, BUT YOU HAD A LOVELY BIG SMILE ON YOUR FACE AS YOU THOUGHT ABOUT IT. YOU WOULD HAVE THOUGHT WE HAD BROUGHT A CUP OF GOLD, THE WAY YOU SMILED ABOUT THE COFFEE. GARY, IT WAS MY PLEASURE TO KNOW YOU AND NOW MY GRIEF NOW THAT YOU ARE GONE. WE WILL NEVER FORGET YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL SMILE. FLY FREE LOVE TO YOU BEVAN, AND GARY'S OTHER LOVED ONES I DIDN'T KNOW. REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES, THEY ALWAYS MAKE YOU SMILE. CHEERS JILL SKERRETT The Announcement They came, the brothers and took 2 chairs in their usual quiet way; And for a time we did not think they had much to say. And they began and talked awhile of ordinary things, Till spread that silence in the room a pent thought brings. And then they said:’The end has come Yes: it has come at last.’ And we looked down, and knew that day A spirit had passed. - Thomas Hardy Kath Kain A brave, sensitive and loving man. It has been an honour to have known you Gary although for only a short time, but I won't forget our chats about rugby and the old haunts of Auckland. I will miss you as will your family and many friends. My sincere condolences to Bevan and all the family. Jackie Bagnall An incredibly kind man, who always encouraged me to pursue my passion in art. Thank you for everything Gary, you will be missed by so many. Sophie C Gary, I am remembering your mellifluous voice, your kind and moderate nature, your complete and quiet support without judgement. Your belief, wonderful windswept walks on music point or Horseshoe bay. Your observant eye, your culinary exquisitness. I remember you well, dear Gary. Arohanui Luise Gary - I've always known you to be the quiet one, the discreet fella. But with your quiet, you offered a steady hand, a firm presence and strength that were felt by all who met you. I have known you for an age, I recognise that friendly face, that signature goatee that framed the warmest smile, and I have known you to be the greatest love to Bevan. You lived a life full of adventure, of immense joy, heartbreak, and sorrow, but boy oh boy, you lived. You will be missed, Gary. May we meet again to enjoy a pint or two over the tinkle of the piano, basking in the warmth of summer, wearing colourful and bold Hawaiian-style shirts, and surrounded by laughter. Don Chooi A very brave and gentle soul who has touched the lives of many. Rest in peace Gary, I won’t forget your friendly smile. Natasha Williams There are so many words that come to mind when we think of you Gary, but none of them do you justice. You simply were the most remarkable man. You and Bevan shared a bond most people don’t get to experience. For that we are forever grateful. What wonderful memories we have, from family get-togethers where you would cook up a storm (your fish curry was legendary, simply the best), Levi chasing you around the island bench laughing so much and you loving it, Singapore and our wonderful cruise to nowhere (we may not have got to those wonderful places, but we certainly made the most of it) and lately hospital visits while you underwent another operation in Dunedin Hospital. Rest assured I’m tightening my butt cheeks as I write this. Thank you for just being you, a man with the gift of understanding, always able to make someone feel okay. We are blessed to have known you, your body may not be with us, but your spirit will live with us forever. Colin and Glenda Dearest Gary, where do I even begin?! Thank you for all you taught me, I feel the massive and amazing influence you have had on my life every day. I will love you and miss you forever ♥️ Olivia We are grateful that life's journey brought us together, allowing us to share in the joy and love that Gary embodied. Though our time with him was short, his impact on our hearts was profound. We cherish memories of strolling along Ringa Ringa beach on Rakiura, where Gary's bright smile would light up the path. We thank him for his unwavering support, guidance, and wisdom, which helped us see the world in all its vibrant colours. Gary will be deeply missed, but his spirit will soar on the wings of our memories. Whenever we think of him, we will remember his kindness, love, and the beauty he brought to our lives. Rest in peace. Love to Bevan family. Laire and Tomas Gary The love inside you take it with you To live in our hearts to leave behind is not to die. Such a beautiful man. Rest in peace You will be sorely missed in our Stewart lsland Community Love to Bevan & family ❤️❤️ You were part of our adventure when we boated across to our little shack next door to your house. We will miss you. Our hearts go out to your loved ones. Grant and Angela Railton Gary I never meet you but I have memorable photos of you which express joy and happiness. These include you and Bevan in Father Christmas suits playing up over a tipple, Christmas a few back; both you and Bevan escorting Olivia up the aisle to be married to Paul. Joy, celebration, happiness are all evident on your face. Even the picture that heads this page of tributes conveys to me the same notions. To know and express joy in the midst of suffering shows your spirit and resilience. I am the poorer for never meeting you but I am enriched by connecting through these images of you. Peace, rest, Aroha and blessings Bevan Peter Brunt I am sitting in my car on the side of a mountain while the sun is setting and the shadows are sliding across and through the damp air. Its a mountain with a different name on each side, as if 2 different peoples came together and joined down the middle. Just like us, the afa kasi neither one nor the other, you know, blended . Its been raining, feels like forever and we were hit by a freezing cold snap when you passed. My brother. Our brother. Gary. We first met you at Waipu Cove, when we were kids. I always remember you as the kind one . I still remember where we sat. On the stairs at the top of the drive . You and Darryl came , dont know if Kevin was there? Maybe . (We all thought Kevin was pretty special, he could blow smoke out his ears and do chinese drawbacks) . So exciting for us to have older brothers. (Especially for Steve, the only boy in our batch) Then I met you later on, as a teenager when I was older and had a girlfriend, you were the top astrologer in akld probably NZ and a naturopath and I was flitting around the community with all the other butterflies, and there you were , our brother , a peaceful pause in the tumultuous excitement of unicorns and rainbows and Dorothy's. You were always so supportive of me and no doubt many others. And you loved my singing So I sang at your bday in greys Ave on the stairs . Standing on Shaky Ground and then the painted warehouse in krd with Ray and a 40 course feast for his bday queens gliding about on rollerblades , And vixens dressed in leather cutting meat with super sharp knives, what a party that was and what a fantastic space. All that work painting the floor like a tapa cloth. And then Garth and the giant dog who nursed the kittens when the mother cat got post natal depression . ❤ so lovely. And then you found your own peaceful pause, with the wonderful Bevan . The waves pounding you to sleep and the kaka knocking on your door for breakfast . The occasional midnight flurry of kiwi legs flying past the back door. Who would have thought they could run that fast. And tho I cant sing for you now , there is always a song in my heart for you . And I hope if there is an afterlife you are there with Dad and Steve and Doris, and it is always warm, like your house with Bevan on Rakiura I know how much you hated the cold. We will all miss you, our brother. Cath Cocker Lovely Gary, I truly admire your courage and the way you kept a positive mind. You had a welcoming smile that would also be a twinkle in your eyes. Such a gentle soul gone too soon. Rest in peace, you will be sorely missed by all who loved you. Lots of love to Bevan and family 💜🩷 Leah Rudin Jones Sending our deepest love and condolences to Bevan and whanau. The deep connection and love that Gary and Bevan shared was so wonderful to be around, truly uplifting. I loved bumping into you both at Ringaringa (except when you were walking your cat and I was walking my dog!) and I cherish our chats and tales of your travels. Gary, may you rest peacefully you adorable man. We will miss your warmth and kindness. Jules & Matt xxxx It was a great honour to have been able to interview Gary on his life and art practice. I appreciated his openness, and honesty, as well as his enthusiasm to start a book project with me. Gary’s art practice had significance, his photography for a seminal exhibition ‘Queer Pictures’ (1985) of art by LGBTQ artists pushed boundaries, as did his photographs of artist Christine Hellyar’s apron sculptures which he places on the sun-kissed naked bodies of friends. He was an out gay artist at a time when many others did not have the courage. Focusing on his Tongan ancestry, Gary took up painting and became a key figure in the emerging contemporary Pasifika Art scene in New Zealand. He is significant in art history as one of the first contemporary Pasifika LGBTQ artists. One of his proudest moments was having his art exhibited in Tonga. What was important about Gary was the compassion and open friendship he showed to others. He is remembered for the care he gave friends who died of AIDS in the 1980s, in particular Denis Gubb and Simon Morley. Gary even features in a movie, taking a small part in the film ‘Death in a Family’ (1986), Peter Wells and Stewart Main’s groundbreaking film on AIDS, based on the death of one of Gary’s friends Denis Gubb. Moving to Rakiura (Stewart Island) with Bevan, Gary recreated his life, making new friends. His kindness, quick wit, openness to new experiences and sense of humour continued to touch everyone who knew him. Gary will be sadly missed by many people. Brent Coutts Dearest Gary how I loved having you as a big brother. I would boast of your many talents to friends. Such a kind, gentle and wise soul. You will be so dearly missed by all. May you rest now in loving peace ❤️ Sally Cocker We can ‘see’ the two of you walking around the point - collecting seafood, doing the traps, checking the sheep - with your faithful follower Loki the cat close behind. Our parents Nancy and Murray really valued your kindness and neighbourly friendship, as we do. Gary, we will miss you. Our condolences to Bevan and Olivia. You were such a team. RIP Gary Carolyn & Robyn Ringaringa Gary, you will be dearly missed at the Mudie gatherings and they will never quite be the same. We really enjoyed your love of cooking though Syd won’t miss the blue cheese loaf. You have touched all our hearts and it has been so nice seeing Bevan so happy and the joy you have brought to his and all our lives. Your courage and determination in how you faced your illness was inspiring. Elaine and Syd Uncle Gary, a man whose kindness, quick wit, and sense of humour touched everyone who knew him. Uncle Gary had a calming spirit that could soothe even the most troubled heart, and his presence will be deeply missed by all who had the privilege of knowing him. One of my fondest memories with Uncle Gary was when my husband and I had the opportunity to travel to Stewart Island and spend a few nights with him and Bevan. It was a remarkable time, not just for the breathtaking sights of the island, but for the precious moments we shared as a family. We reminisced about our family heritage, and Uncle Gary delighted us with stories of his memories of Rachael and I as children reminding me of the special role he played in our lives. Earlier this year, Uncle Gary showcased an incredible exhibit which is a testament to his talent and passion. We had made grand plans to hopefully welcome him and Bevan to Melbourne, eager to show them around and create even more cherished memories together. Though those plans will remain unfulfilled, the love and joy Uncle Gary brought into our lives will never fade. Fly high, Uncle Gary, and continue to watch over all of us. Your spirit will always shine brightly in our hearts. Lots of love and hugs, Stuart Fox and Andrea Fox (nee Cocker) xx Gary was a loving kind person who always had fresh hot scones served with jam prepared whenever we visited him. He adored his kitty Loki and showed him lots of love, I'm sure Loki will miss him heaps. He will be remembered with love and happiness. Lots of love to Bevan. Rest in peace Gary. Charlie Cave I hope you are resting in peace now Gary. You will be missed. Kua haere ia ki tōna moenga roa ❤️ Karen Davis We will remember Uncle Gary as a calm, kind-hearted, loving person. We are blessed to have been able to share some time with him and Bevan recently, memories that we will forever cherish. Rest in love, Uncle Gary. Ofa lahi atu, Dallas, James, Denzel, Amélia When we say goodbye to Uncle Gary, we remember a man who truly embodied kindness and positivity. Uncle Gary had a remarkable way of seeing the bright side of life, no matter the circumstances. His ability to find the silver lining and share it with others made even the toughest days a little easier. I will always cherish the countless conversations we had. Uncle Gary was never too busy for a chat, whether it was to offer sage advice or simply to listen. His thoughtfulness was evident in every interaction. He had a special knack for making each of us feel heard and valued, and his caring nature left a lasting impression on everyone he met. Uncle Gary had a way of making the ordinary extraordinary, and his presence made our lives richer and more joyful. As we remember him, let’s honor his legacy by embracing his outlook on life—finding joy in the small moments, offering kindness without hesitation, and being there for each other, just as he always was for us. Uncle Gary - Although you are no longer with us, the warmth and love you shared will continue to guide and inspire us. Thank you, Uncle Gary, for being a beacon of light in our lives. You will be missed always. Lots of love always, Rachael, Kris, Gabby and Harrison xx It has been a real privilege to have worked with Garry during his early days on the island, he was both a Gentle Man, and a Gentleman, and I was also lucky to have been able to call him a friend, he was always so positive and accepting, and took life as it came, and always saw the best in everything and everyone. My heartfelt condolences go out to Bevan, Olivia and the rest of his wider family, RIP Garry, your happy smiling face will be so missed. 🥰 Missed Gary on our last visit but always looked forward to a quiet talk or wave. Gary & Beaven have been part of our life since we have been able to visit our house at Ringaringa. A lovely couple who we looked forward to seeing. We knew our place was safe when we were not there. We were keen to swap cod for lettuce and onions from their plastic house. Gary was so staunch in his fight for good health, quiet and a very keen walker. Very much admired. Our sincere condolences to Beaven and both families. We will keep you in our thoughts. Mary & Lindsay Molloy, part time Ringaringa A couple of weeks ago I wrote to Gary, and his reply turned out to be my last message from him. “At this moment I am just aware of the sunshine on my face. Xx” Gary was one of my favourite people on Rakiura. For me, Bevan and Gary’s sunny kitchen has always been an oasis of laughter and excellent conversation. We talked about everything under the sun and moon: politics, news, art, music, food, travel, and family. I loved Gary’s honesty—he spoke with such openness and frankness about his life experiences. He had the most beautiful, honeyed voice (I always thought he would have made a good radio host). He was an intent and thoughtful listener. If my conversation veered toward an unkind take on someone, it was often Gary who steered me onto an empathetic path. He was a loving, sweet-hearted man; but he wasn’t boring! He had twinkly eyes, a wonderful, mischievous laugh, and great style. He was an accomplished artist – I just read an article about his fascinating work which was recently exhibited at the Govett-Brewster Art Gallery. My boys loved Gary too, and we all looked forward to our visits to Ringa Ringa, especially if Gary had cooked up a batch of scones. While Gary was in hospital, the boys and I took turns reading and recording poems to send to him. Gary especially liked Charlie’s rendition of Yeats’ ‘Song of Wandering Aengus’. He wrote: “Thanks Charlie, your reading is excellent and oh so appropriate. That poem is one of the earliest I can remember reading ~ maybe I would have been 9 or 10. I have always remembered the last lines since that time.” I cherished my friendship with Gary, and we will miss him fiercely. It seems so unfair that he was one of the good ones, yet he left us too soon. The solace is knowing he lived a life shining with the best of being human: creativity and love. The silver apples of the moon The golden apples of the sun Much love to Bevan and all of Gary’s family Jessica Kany It was a privilege to have such a beautiful, kind, caring and brave soul as a member of our family. You will be missed Uncle Gary. Laura x Your special presence will be missed along the Ringaringa shoreline, that you embraced. Phil To our dear friend Gary, he was a humble, creative, quiet, deep thinker who has been a loving loyal partner and mate to Bevan and dad to Olivia, he will be deeply missed, "Kua wheturangitiakoe, mihi ke Te hungamate, ka aroha hoki" heaps aroha Dave Ruth AJ and Lea xxx David Milne Gary, you were such a calm, patient (yes Bevan, patient), creative and adventurous spirit, not to mention popular with the boys. You will be missed, leaving behind a human-shaped hole for all the people you've helped through your work or just by knowing you as a decent person. Always the rainbow. LOL (lots of love) Jonathan My path crossed with Garry's, whose kind eyes conveyed a depth of compassion that spoke volumes. Our first meeting left a lasting impression, as he selflessly pushed me in a wheelchair up the ramp to attend Tai Chi. What struck me most was learning he had recently returned from hospital, yet his concern for others took precedence. But perhaps the greatest testament to Garry's heart was the love he shared with Bevan, a bond that radiated warmth, devotion, and joy. Together, they embodied a beautiful partnership that I found inspiring and uplifting. Garry will be deeply missed. Tam Hallett Bevan, my dearest of friends & dearest of Dads, & Olivia, I send warmest love & care to you both at this saddest of times. To Gary, I send gratitude for the love you gave my family. How I wish you had been closer in person but I sure felt you were not too far. May you rest in peace & still somehow know the joy you gave. To Gary's family & friends, I send my deep condolences. Viki (Olivia's Mum...named after me but primarily after my dear Mother Olive now 102 years of age.) Viki In loving memory of Gary, his kindness, genuine nature, and caring heart touched the lives of all who were fortunate enough to know him. He will be remembered fondly. Sharyn and family xo Gary was a loving and kind person who made the best scones. I loved having visits with him and will miss him a lot. Rest in peace Gary. Moby Cave A love shared is a mighty gift, and you gave so generously, always with that wonderful smile. I felt loved and accepted. Such an honour to be your friend. So brave a man who fought with kindness and courage through it all. And now, the peace and the love you have shared remain with us all. Nicola McLeod Gary will be a dearly missed Uncle and Great Uncle of the Miller extension of the Mudie Clan. He was always so friendly and caring making sure to ask after everyone. Rest in peace! ❤️ Tracey Miller I remember the first time I met Gary (and Bevan). We were at Doughboy and two energetic, full-of-life middle-aged guys came strolling along the beach, having hiked over from Rakeahua. We made our acquaintance with them and donated a bottle of wine and half a birthday cake to their tramping kai before saying “See ya round.” Jumping on the wee plane ✈️ and heading back to the Bay. RIP Gary knowing that we’ll do our best to look after Bevan xx Kath Johnson userTribute leaveMessage Share a photo Upload Photo Max File Size 15MB Tick the captcha Submit https://office88868.wixsite.com/distinctv002/obituaries/gary-arthur/cocker?skipRedirect=true&ssrOnly=true&extendedTimeout=true&debug=false

Obituaries I Distinct Funeral Services I Southland I NZ Leave a tribute View Service Sheet Harding Print Page Lucy Naomi Friday, 5 February 1943 Born: Passed: Friday, 14 April 2023 It is with great sadness that we announce the passing of Lucy. A dearly loved daughter of May and Peter MacDonald (deceased). A beloved wife of the late Stanley Harding loved companion to “Cocoa”, and a very dearly loved Aunty to all her nieces, nephews, Grand nieces, and Grand nephews. A service to celebrate Lucy’s amazing life will be held at the Riverton RSA at 11 am on Tuesday 18th April 2023 followed by a get-together for light refreshments at the Lodge, Riverton. “Fly high with the Angels Aunty and rest in Eternal Paradise alongside your beloved Stan and Cocoa” Forever Loved. Never to be Forgotten. Livestream Please find a link to the livestream below RIP Lucy. You truly were a great friend over many years in Riverton and always a lot of fun to be around. Hope you find peace now that you are at rest with Stan. Doug Stuart userTribute leaveMessage Share a photo Upload Photo Max File Size 15MB Tick the captcha Submit https://office88868.wixsite.com/distinctv002/obituaries/lucy-naomi/harding?skipRedirect=true&ssrOnly=true&extendedTimeout=true&debug=false

Obituaries I Distinct Funeral Services I Southland I NZ Leave a tribute View Service Sheet Trainor Print Page Louisa Margaret Tuesday, 20 October 1936 Born: Passed: Wednesday, 20 November 2024 Margaret passed away peacefully in the comfort of her home, surrounded by her loving family and friends. Loved wife of the late Lauris. Mother and mother-in-law to Rodney and Linda, Alison and Gareth, Kay and John, and Cherry. Much-loved Nana to her grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and great-great-grandchildren. Margaret will be resting at 168/2 Balmoral Drive, Appleby, Invercargill. Margaret's door is open—feel free to pop in and share memories. A celebration of Margaret's life will be held at the Salvation Army Church, 29 Victoria Street Avenal, Invercargill, at 1 p.m. on Thursday, November 28th, followed by interment at Eastern Cemetery. Donations to Hospice Southland would be greatly appreciated and can be left at Margaret's service. Messages may be sent to 168 Flat 2 Balmoral Drive Appleby Invercargill 9810 Livestream Please find a link to the livestream below Condolences on the loss of your lovely Mum. Alan and Debra Harris (Dixon) userTribute leaveMessage Share a photo Upload Photo Max File Size 15MB Tick the captcha Submit https://office88868.wixsite.com/distinctv002/obituaries/louisa-margaret/trainor?skipRedirect=true&ssrOnly=true&extendedTimeout=true&debug=false

Obituaries I Distinct Funeral Services I Southland I NZ Leave a tribute View Service Sheet Lankshear Print Page Peter Maurice Saturday, 25 August 1928 Born: Passed: Saturday, 30 March 2024 With sadness, we announce Dad made his final departure on 31 March 2024, aged 95. Formerly of New Plymouth, much loved husband and friend of the late Iris. Treasured father and father-in-law of David and Suzanne (Invercargill), Vanessa and Jim Elliott (New Plymouth), and Ken and Linda (Wellington). Cherished Grandad of Rachel Rankin, Gemma Goodall, and Joshua; Broughton and George Elliott; Lisa, Zoe and Ethan, and his 8 great-grandchildren. A service to celebrate Peter’s life will be held at Invercargill Methodist Church, 22 Lindisfarne Street at 10.00 am on Thursday 4 April. Special thanks to all the kind, caring, considerate staff at Bupa Ascot. Messages to 54 Millton Park Rd, Invercargill Livestream Please find a link to the livestream below userTribute leaveMessage Share a photo Upload Photo Max File Size 15MB Tick the captcha Submit https://office88868.wixsite.com/distinctv002/obituaries/peter-maurice/lankshear?skipRedirect=true&ssrOnly=true&extendedTimeout=true&debug=false

Obituaries I Distinct Funeral Services I Southland I NZ Leave a tribute View Service Sheet Wilkes Print Page June Alice (nee Boyer) Friday, 28 June 1935 Born: Passed: Wednesday, 9 March 2022 Passed away peacefully after a short illness on Thursday 10 March 2022. Dearly loved wife and best friend of Ron. Loving Mum and mother-in-law of Mark and Paula (Perth), Tony and Helen (Perth), *Jane, Dean and Stacey (Invercargill), and Angela and Andy (Queenstown). Adored Grandma and Great Grandmother to Kelly and Rachael, Bliss and Flo, Natasha and Ash, Anastasia and Sam, Lachlan, Arielle, and Raquel. A wonderful sister and sister-in-law to *Bill and Eva Boyer, *Harold and Dawn, *Kathleen and *Brian Ramage. Much loved Aunty June to all of her nieces and nephews. June’s family would like to acknowledge and thank the amazing medical team at Southland Hospital who took exceptional care of June in her final days. A service to celebrate June’s life will be held in the Invercargill Christian Centre, 165 Leet Street, Invercargill on Tuesday 15 March at 2.00 pm, followed by a private cremation. In lieu of flowers, donations to The Order of St John would be appreciated. Due to Covid restrictions, a vaccine passport must be shown on entry and the wearing of masks is required. Messages to 439 Yarrow Street, Invercargill. (*denotes deceased) Livestream Please find a link to the livestream below https://livestream.com/accounts72885/junewilkes userTribute leaveMessage Share a photo Upload Photo Max File Size 15MB Tick the captcha Submit https://office88868.wixsite.com/distinctv002/obituaries/june-alice-(nee-boyer)/wilkes?skipRedirect=true&ssrOnly=true&extendedTimeout=true&debug=false

Obituaries I Distinct Funeral Services I Southland I NZ Leave a tribute View Service Sheet Malcolm Print Page Owen William Monday, 15 April 1940 Born: Passed: Thursday, 3 July 2025 Passed away with his red bands on, at his home in Browns, at the age of 85. Son of the late Duncan and Bessina Malcolm. Brother and brother-in-law of (Ken and Kath), (Allan), Alison and (Murray), Trevor and Sandra. Loved uncle of Wayne and Sharron, Douglas and Anne, Russell, Deborah and Alan, Kayleen and Regan, and their families. And friend of Charlie and Hazel. A graveside service will be held on Thursday the 10th at the Winton Cemetery, Great North Road, at 1:30 pm, followed by refreshments under the grandstand at the Winton Racecourse. Attendees are encouraged to wear gumboots. 😊 A hard case, who got his way in the end: “I’m going out with my boots on.” Messages to the Malcolm family, 92 O’Shannessy Road, 1 R.D., Winton. Livestream Please find a link to the livestream below userTribute leaveMessage Share a photo Upload Photo Max File Size 15MB Tick the captcha Submit https://office88868.wixsite.com/distinctv002/obituaries/owen-william/malcolm?skipRedirect=true&ssrOnly=true&extendedTimeout=true&debug=false

Obituaries I Distinct Funeral Services I Southland I NZ Leave a tribute View Service Sheet Livingstone Print Page Murray James Friday, 6 May 1955 Born: Passed: Saturday, 25 May 2024 Beloved husband of Lynette, father of Samuel (deceased) and Sarah, and friend of Adam. Stepdad and father-in-law of Aaron and Philippa, Damon and Sarah Brown. Grandad of Jessica, Grace, Adam, Owen, Coben, and Darcey. Great-grandad of Finn. Loved son of the late Dave and Flora Livingstone. Brother and brother-in-law of the late Gladys and Danny, the late Cathie and Leo, Rob (deceased) and Carolyn, Lorraine and Murray, Barry (deceased) and Jan, Graham and Fay, Judy and Richard, Noeline and Paul. Loved son-in-law of Jim (deceased) and Pearl Jefcoate. Brother-in-law of Valerie and John, Neil and Yvonne, Colin and Judy, Allan and Linda. A service to celebrate Murray's life will be held at Invercargill Central Baptist Church, 11 Deveron Street, at 1.30 pm on Thursday, 30 May 2024. On conclusion, a private cremation will be held. Messages may be sent to 61A Lorn Street, Glengarry 9810. Livestream Please find a link to the livestream below https://livestream.com/accounts72885/murraylivingstone Although we met up with Murray many years ago, we only got to know him closer in the last 4 yrs. What a courageous man with great faith and a pleasure to be around. Smiles for miles and never showed a lack of joy for life. Great memories for us both. Our love and sympathy to you Lynette, he will have received the “Well done good and faith servant”. Yours in Christ, Dave & Frances Stewart Sorry to hear of Marray's passing, thoughts are with Lynette and family. Will always remember Murray as a kind, patient and gentle soul who was fond of a laugh. Sending love from the Brisbane Jefcoates Regan Jefcoate Deepest sympathy to Murray's family Elaine Cox (Cappie) Very sorry to read of Murray's passing today. I last saw Murray at a reunion out 'home'. Remembering times of 'growing up over the road'. RIP Murray, Our sympathy for Murray's family and siblings. From the 'Mason's' Diane Lindsay userTribute leaveMessage Share a photo Upload Photo Max File Size 15MB Tick the captcha Submit https://office88868.wixsite.com/distinctv002/obituaries/murray-james/livingstone?skipRedirect=true&ssrOnly=true&extendedTimeout=true&debug=false

Obituaries I Distinct Funeral Services I Southland I NZ Leave a tribute View Service Sheet Kerr Print Page Andrew Irvine Tuesday, 26 December 1967 Born: Passed: Monday, 2 September 2024 Andrew passed away peacefully at Hospice Southland, Invercargill on Monday 2nd of September. Loved son of George and Jean Kerr, and cherished brother(spud) of Danae, and Phil. Loving husband of Joanna. Father to Jessey, Jordi, Jay, Jenni, and Jacqui. A graveside service for Andrew will be held on Thursday 5th of September at the Eastern Cemetery, Tay St, Invercargill, block 53, commencing at 3 pm In lieu of flowers, a donation to Southland Hospice would be appreciated. Messages to 61 Queens Drive Invercargill 9810. Livestream Please find a link to the livestream below Dear Joanna and family: It is with great sadness I've at this late time come to know of Andrew's passing. I echo Sister Erin's words above. I also served as a missionary NZWM (2001-2003) and was in the Invercargill Branch for six months, during which I served also with Sister Erin. During my time in the Branch and as a district leader, I came to know Andrew, yourself and the family very well. Many fond and happy memories of having dinners together in your home. Andrew was one of a kind. I remember well the weekly volleyball nights we had at the chapel as a Branch missionary activity Andrew organised, the the deep and meaningful gospel conversations I shared with him, and his witty, intellectual sense of humour. Once again can I express my sincerest belated condolences, "This world is not conclusion; A sequel stands beyond, Invisible, as music, But positive, as sound." -Emily Dickinson, ca. 1860s Sasha (Elder) Todhunter, Perth, Western Australia Joanna I was saddened to hear of the passing of your awesome husband Brother Kerr. I have the best memories of serving with him in the Invercargill Branch as a missionary. He was an amazing Branch Mission Leader. He was a person who truly gave everything he had to that work and made it fun while doing it. The meals we shared at your home and the coolest missionary "business" cards he made for us were legendary in the NZWM. Thinking of your family, and wishing you all the best until you can be reunited with him again. Erin Elton Schurtz Aroha nui to you all. Andrea Jerry Ryan userTribute leaveMessage Share a photo Upload Photo Max File Size 15MB Tick the captcha Submit https://office88868.wixsite.com/distinctv002/obituaries/andrew-irvine/kerr?skipRedirect=true&ssrOnly=true&extendedTimeout=true&debug=false

Obituaries I Distinct Funeral Services I Southland I NZ Leave a tribute View Service Sheet Kemp Print Page Anita Louise Thursday, 19 November 1942 Born: Passed: Sunday, 10 August 2025 Passed peacefully on Sunday, August 10, 2025, at Hospice Southland. Mother and mother-in-law of Danny and Cheryl, Noel and Kim, Shane and Lee-Ann, Rhys and Sandra, Kat and Jay. Loved Nana of Nikki, Nathan, Shae, Josh, Nikkole, Jackson, Danni, Kayla, Tyler, Chelsea, and Vincent. Proud Great-Nan of Madison, Dylan, Tane, Blake, Mia, Dominic, Seth, Kade, Kailyn, Alish, Atlas, and Ledger. The family sincerely thank the staff at Cargill Court, the Medical Ward at Southland Hospital, and Hospice Southland for their care of Anita in her final days. As was Anita’s wish, a private cremation has been held. Messages may be sent to 70 Dalwharn Street, Wallacetown 9816, or left on Anita’s tribute page. Livestream Please find a link to the livestream below Sending you all, my sincere condolences, on the loss of your loved Mum. Your memory's will bring comfort, and She lives on in your heart, and beautiful children, and children's children. Auntie Di. Diana Clark So sorry to hear about the passing of auntie Anita Thinking of you all at this difficult time Debbie Millar/lange Thinking of you all at this time Doug & Lois Millar Our thoughts are with the Kemp family at this sad time , it can also be a time of reminiscing about fun family memories and reflecting through old pictures together to celebrate Mum and her life. Kind thoughts to you all. Rhys and Carolyn Jones To nanya we gonna mith you, and your tuddles and kithes. Love you Nana Ginge, rest in peace forever and enjoy your time in the sky. Zee - and the babies So sorry to hear of Anita's passing. Love and hugs to all the family. Marlene George This tribute is made on behalf of the Southland Dog Training Club Committee and our members. Anita was a life member of our club and we are much saddened to hear of her passing and extend our deepest condolences to her family. Anita is remembered by us as a lovely person, someone we shared laughter and many fun times with. She was also a great contributor; a down-to-earth, practical club member, who always kept an eye on our clubrooms and grounds. May she rest in peace with her wonderful dogs Bengy, Lulu and Sasha. Southland Dog Training Club To the Kemp Family, thinking of you all at this sad time. Have many memories of your Mum. Shane and Carmen Hedges We met many years, with naughty dogs to train, and had many years of fun, laughter, and great memories. My love and thoughts to all in memory of a wonderful lady. Will be sadly missed by many. Jenny Miller Sweet lil lady, I had the honour of seeing your wonderful smile just a short time ago as we bumped into you with your beautiful Kat & Chels. You'll forever be with your whānau and they'll forever live in your love and memories. May you rest in peace 🤍 Stacey Materoa Rest in Paradise Anita. Free from pain, free from suffering. Enjoy catching up with everyone including your furbabys in heaven! I know you will watch over your baby girl, but know we got her too. You will be missed xx Leigh McLeod (Sellwood) Fly free Anita. Thinking of you Kat and whanau at this sad time. Your Mum's got a bit of work to do when she gets to heaven to attend to all those beautiful dogs she loved so much. Kylie Lewis Please accept my deepest sympathy in the sad loss of your loving mother. Thinking of you Kat and Jay. R.I.P Anita 💔 Trish Murray Trish Murray It's with a broken heart I write this. I love you Mum & my life will never be the same without you. But as I navigate my future, please know, I will honor you & keep your memory alive. Bless you Mum. Forever your baby girl x Katrena Kemp userTribute leaveMessage Share a photo Upload Photo Max File Size 15MB Tick the captcha Submit https://office88868.wixsite.com/distinctv002/obituaries/anita-louise/kemp?skipRedirect=true&ssrOnly=true&extendedTimeout=true&debug=false

Obituaries I Distinct Funeral Services I Southland I NZ Leave a tribute View Service Sheet Brownridge Print Page Ian Friday, 16 September 1927 Born: Passed: Saturday, 22 May 2021 Passed peacefully at Longwood Rest Home, Riverton, on 23rd May 2021, aged 93 years. Formerly of Orepuki. Loving husband and devoted companion of the late Gwen. Predeceased by Margaret & Digger Popham (Sister and Brother-in-Law), Pamela Taiaroa (Daughter) and Sandra Brownridge (Daughter in Law). Loved father of Annette and George Watkinson (Orepuki), Gail and Eddie Skeggs (Taramoa), Neil Brownridge and Rose Court (Ashburton), and Lynley and Russell Slaughter (Alexandra). Loved by all his Grandchildren, Great Grandchildren, and Nieces and Nephews. As per Ian’s wishes, a private cremation has been held. He is finally at rest with his beloved wife Gwen. A very special thank you to all the staff at the Longwood Rest Home, you truly are special people! Messages to 24 Oldham Street Orepuki. RD1 Riverton 9881. Livestream Please find a link to the livestream below Neil so sorry to hear about your Dad. Thinking of you all at this sad time. Nige and Ang xxx Nige and Ang To Neil and family. Sending our sympathy to you all at this sad time. John and Judith Minty userTribute leaveMessage Share a photo Upload Photo Max File Size 15MB Tick the captcha Submit https://office88868.wixsite.com/distinctv002/obituaries/ian/brownridge?skipRedirect=true&ssrOnly=true&extendedTimeout=true&debug=false

Obituaries I Distinct Funeral Services I Southland I NZ Leave a tribute View Service Sheet Kanter Print Page Istvan (Steve) Friday, 4 June 1937 Born: Passed: Monday, 1 July 2024 Formerly of Hungary. Steve passed away peacefully at Hospice Southland on 01/07/2024. Dearly loved husband and best friend of Margaret (Margo). Treasured Dad and father-in-law of Brett and Mary, Scott and Sharon, Kristen and Rob, Sue and Boofa, Julie and Scott, Glen and Abi, Shelley and Mark. A precious Grand and Great Grandad, a much-loved uncle, brother-in-law, and friend to many, our hero and 100% legend. He will be dearly missed. Steve will be resting at home until his service. A celebration of Steve's life will be held on Saturday 6th of July at the Invercargill Working Mens Club, commencing at 11.30 am. Messages to 14 Ingram Street, Invercargill 9812. Livestream Please find a link to the livestream below https://livestream.com/accounts72885/istvankanter Sayonara to a loved one who will be missed dearly...always be in my heart...you loved and lived ya best life...4 ever remembered along side the ones we have lost...🥰🥰🥰 Jacqui CAWSTON Steve may you R.I.P Best regards Rhona Mudgway of the Gold Coast Qld Aust, formally of Invercargill I wish I met you in person .... live on young chap😇 Kennison Hadfield Going to miss you heaps old fella beutiful soul 💙love always Grandad MATALI Grandad Kiwi Thank you for all the memories when you came to England to visit us! Especially on my 18th birthday when you insisted on doing a speech. Enjoy all the Hungarian wine up there! Rest in peace Grandad Courtney István Kanter 🤍 Rest in Peace to the legend that was Grandad Kiwi, no words could ever describe how much we all loved you! Forever grateful to have your name as my middle name! My world was so beautiful because of your presence in my life 🥺🤍 Cameron Saunders Uncle to De, Steve to Kell and Steeeeeeeve to the girls, we feel so blessed to have known such a charming, cheeky, charismatic, humble and caring human. You have touched our lives, and we are lucky to have so many memories from over the years to cherish like whip cracking, cabbage rolls, venison and the best cuddles just to name a few. You always made time for us. We love you so much and miss you xxxx De, Kell, Lena & Maggie Reeves Beautiful Poppa, Thank you for allowing us to come into your's and Margo's life. We have the most wonderful memories of all our meetings with you both. And the many Friends and family you both introduced us too. Poppa you will be greatly missed. You are often on our minds. Always in our Hearts. Love you Poppa Suzie baby and Boofa Sue n Gary Malatesta Uncle Steve. You will be dearly missed by so many. I’ll especially miss visiting you whenever I would go down to Invercargill, it was always such a highlight to catch up with you. Your witty jokes and cheeky smile always made me laugh. I know Nana and Grandad will look after you up there. Uncle Steve and Margo gifted me my most loyal friend when I was a baby, Pup, who to this day sits on my bed. Whenever I come home, I see Pup, and memories of your caring nature, golden personality, warm hugs, and beautiful smile all come back. I love you, Uncle Steve xxx Shelby Nicol I was sad to hear of the recent passing of Steve. Condolences and love to you Margo and all the family. Steve loved telling mum and I stories about himself and my dad (Mike Havrilla) back in the old days when you came to the Gold Coast on holidays. All our love Michelene, Katryna, Michael and Leon Michelene Cosgrove Uncle Steve I'm going to miss you so much, you were such an inspiration to me. I always enjoyed it when you came to visit when I was a wee fella telling me how you had shot a deer you inspired me to be the man I am today!! Living off the land, hunting and gathering, I enjoyed your visits and enjoyed giving you Hungarian sausage and other things I had made. I idolised you growing up and I was glad I was able to take you hunting on your 70th - even better you shot the biggest stag you had ever shot!! It's been an honour and a privilege to have had you in my life, I'm will love you and miss you for the rest of my life. Imre Varga Our Deepest Sympathy goes out to you Margaret & family. Steve was a great friend to Kevin & the Strong family, he will be deeply missed. Unfortunately Roger & I won't be able to be there on Saturday but we will be thinking of you and we will watch it via livestream. Philippa & Roger Strong We want to offer our heartfelt condolences on Steve's passing. We know how much he meant to you all and how difficult this time must be for you. Cherish all the memories you have of him ❤️ As he will long be remembered. On behalf of all the Goold Family past and present, we are with you in spirit ❤️ I was pleased to have been able to chat with Steve a week before his passing happy hunting Steve. Barry Goold Uncle Steve, I will miss you I remember when I was a little kid and we would go over to your place to visit there was always a sense of excitement for me your energy Was always high showing us how you would use a whip was amazing how easy you made it look. So many cool things. Letting me play my music when no one else would. Steve Varga Words cannot express the loss of our loved Uncle Pupak, He was definitely one in a million A strong man with a big heart He loved people, animals, and life, and everyone loved him. He and Margo were always there for Dad when he was ill, he’s been a big part of my life and we had a special bond. David and I will miss your visits, stories, and laughter. Go now and be with all your brothers up there waiting on their best friend.💔 Shari Kay-Smith Steve our street parties won’t be the same with you not there. We will have a drink in your honour thinking of you, Margo and the family. Just know we are here. RIP Reba and Rodger Steve, I miss you and will miss you for the rest of my life. We only come across very special people rarely in our lives and you were one of those people in mine. Godspeed my very good friend. Joe Wilkinson Uncle Steve, you were so very much loved and will be deeply missed by us all. All our love Theresa, Murray, Shelby and Zac xoxo Theresa Varga Steve, you will be missed! I have known you for 50 years since I was a kid! I always looked up to you, you were bigger than life, a legend and one of my father's best mates, now you two can be together again! You are one of a kind and loved by all who came across you, rest easy my dear friend! Condolences to Margo and family, my deepest sympathy xx Ric Cawston Going to miss you heaps. You have been a valuable, strong part of my village, especially for my kids from the day they were born. Cade and his mates will drink palinka in your honour. All the kids will miss your stories. With much love Lady Melinda who pissed out the winda, Cade and Macey xxxx oooo Melinda Meikle Steve, you will be so missed. It has been a pleasure to have been able to spend time with you over the last 20 years. We will miss you dearly. Love Glenn, Lyn and Dan Lynette , Glenn and Dan Clunie Much love to you all. Such an amazing man on so many levels. Ness userTribute leaveMessage Share a photo Upload Photo Max File Size 15MB Tick the captcha Submit https://office88868.wixsite.com/distinctv002/obituaries/istvan-(steve)/kanter?skipRedirect=true&ssrOnly=true&extendedTimeout=true&debug=false

Obituaries I Distinct Funeral Services I Southland I NZ Leave a tribute View Service Sheet Gilbert Print Page Noel Dennis (RANGI) Wednesday, 12 May 1943 Born: Passed: Tuesday, 5 December 2023 Passed away at Rowena Jackson on Wednesday, December 6 2023 aged 80 years. Dearly loved husband of the late Florence. Much loved father, father-in-law and grandad of Fiona and Roy Sloan, Murray and Terina, Mandy and Whatihoro, Simon and Kelly, and his many grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. Loved and respected son, brother, brother-in-law and uncle, to the Gilbert and Frazer families. A service to celebrate Noel's life will be held at the Brown's Pavilion, on Saturday, December 9th commencing at 1 pm, followed by a private family interment. Messages may be sent to Fiona Sloan at 265 Riverside Road, RD3 Winton 9783. Livestream Please find a link to the livestream below To Mandy and whanau, My thoughts are with you all as you navigate life's journey without your dad (and your mum) I can remember Noel as a quiet man, with very few words but a gentle presence and of course your beautiful mum as the one that wore the pants in the household, haha - no mucking around with Flo - god bless her heart Just wanted to send my/our message of thoughts and love from the Rudolph whanau Arohanui - Tracey and Whanau in NZ & Australia xx Tracey O'Donnell (Rudolph) It was with sadness that I heard of Uncle Noel’s passing. Whilst I can’t be there I still wanted to share some fond memories I have of growing up around Uncle Noel. As with most of the Gilbert men, Noel was quiet in nature but it was the occasional wink and “How are you going” that warmed my heart and always made me know he cared. I can picture him at fire brigade comps, running like the wind during the competitions the Browns Volunteer Fire Brigade team were in. I had a very short stint of joining the volunteer team myself when I was 20yrs old and I can recall on our first maintenance outing he sent me down a ladder inside a water tank, "because I was the smallest" he said. But I do wonder if it was a bit of an initiation which I was always up for! As a child, I can remember being deeply concerned when he badly damaged his hand in a workplace accident. How was my uncle who could do everything going to cope? Well, he did just that in his usual, quiet and determined way. That was just who he was. There were two things that Noel taught me that I hold onto proudly. The first was when my Dad (Jimmy Gilbert) said I could no longer work in the Browns Limeworks office. If I wanted to stay with the company I would have to learn manual labour and machine operations. I’m fairly sure Uncle Noel, Uncle Darcy, Simon and the rest of the crew thought Dad had gone quite mad. Noel drew the short-straw of teaching me how to operate the first of our large heavy machinery. He was patient but firm and believed in me more than I did and so learn I did. He did a great job of teaching and so I was promoted to “up the hill” where Uncle Darcy took over and Noel kept a close eye on me. I’m so grateful for those skills he taught me during that time as I have put them to use over the past 25yrs. The other thing he taught me was Euchre. I loved watching the staff at the Limeworks playing Euchre during smoko. Eventually, I found the courage to learn and once again Noel was in my corner to help show me the ropes. It became the favourite part of the day and even now my husband and I have a euchre night with friends and memories from those times during smoko always come flooding back. I want to express my love and thoughts to Fiona, Murray, Mandy, Simon and their families for the loss of a wonderful father, father-in-law and grandad. Treasure your memories. I know Noel will be greatly missed. I hold on to the thought that the Gilbert Brothers that are "up there” are having a great old catch-up and maybe even over a game of cards or two. Take care everyone, with love, Erin Gilbert - Perth WA So sorry to hear of Noel's passing. He made my job so joyful at Rowena Jackson. To see him would light everyone’s day up. My thoughts are with you at this time. Rest In Peace Noel x To Mandy, Fiona, Murray Simon and family, My thoughts are with you all as you navigate your way through the loss of Noel. Sad for your loss. Many a joke shared at the golf club, the Celtic, or just in passing. Rod Bell To the Gilbert Family. We are sorry to read of Noel's passing and extend our sincere sympathy to you. Noel was a keen sportsman, and back in our younger days, we shared good times at various sports and social functions. Sorry we are unable to be present at his farewell service in Browns, we will be thinking of you all. Gavin and Rhonda Hall To Simon and Kelly, Fiona, and the Gilbert family. Sorry to read about the passing of Noel. He was always a great guy to work with over the many years at Browns and AB Lime. He always enjoyed our social outings and was good value to have at them especially when the music started. Sorry I cannot be with you to say goodbye to him but will be thinking of you all. Jenny King (Te Anau) userTribute leaveMessage Share a photo Upload Photo Max File Size 15MB Tick the captcha Submit https://office88868.wixsite.com/distinctv002/obituaries/noel-dennis-(rangi)/gilbert?skipRedirect=true&ssrOnly=true&extendedTimeout=true&debug=false