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Thursday, 6 June 2024

In Loving Memory of Heather Gray

It is with heavy hearts that we announce the passing of our beloved Heather. She peacefully departed from this world on 6th June, surrounded by her loved ones at Southland Hospice.

Heather will be dearly missed by her family, friends, and all those whose lives she touched. She leaves behind a legacy of selflessness and care for those she loved.

Heather was the much-loved wife of Calder. Devoted mother and mother-in-law to Megan and Zak, Cameron and Kiri, Callum and Kate, and Rebekah. Hands-on Nana to Archie, Wilhelmina, Spencer, and the soon-to-be Baby Gray.

The memorial service will be held on 19th June at 2 pm at Ascot Park Hotel.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Hospice Southland in memory of Heather Gray. No words can ever express what Hospice Southland meant to Heather and our family.

Please join us as we celebrate the life of Heather and bid her farewell.

Please find a link to the livestream below


To Calder and family
It was a shock to hear of Heather's passing. She was such a cheerful person and will be sadly missed by all. Thinking of you all at this very sad time.
Jenny and Wayne Taylor


Words just don’t’ seem enough for my beautiful childhood friend Heather. The fun times growing up in Henderson Street as children and then adults.

For as long as I have known you our friendship and love stayed strong. I will so miss your smile and your wicked sense of humour.

I promise to stay in Calder and your children’s lives, sharing stories and memories.

You’ll forever be in my heart x

Gillian Gray


It's been nice knowing you and always great to receive your support for our wee family. Our best wishes and a grateful goodbye.

The Kunisch Family


Deepest sympathy to Calder and family ❤️
To you Heather ❤️
Thank You for being a blessing in my life. You were a true angel to me, and I'm more grateful to you than words can express. Few people possess the considerate, unselfish, loving heart that you had, I thank you for your kindness and for being such a wonderful, amazing friend and co-worker. Rest in love x



Heather, I'm so sad to hear of your passing. I spent many hors choosing fabric for our home. We had lots of laughs, especially watching Calder up the ladder fitting blinds and curtains. So many people love you dearly and will miss you.💟

Julie and Alan Moss


Always willing to help others and worked hard to get everything she loved. Calder and the kids she will be missed. Many thoughts are with you all.

Eddie Valk


Had some great giggles with Heather. Loved swimming with her in the lake at Glendhu. Especially when it was cold and everyone thought we were mad. Thinking of you guys x

Abby Fraser


Oh Heather, what a shit card you were dealt.
You were the best neighbour anyone could have ever asked for.
Thank you for always being a kind ear for me to vent and yarn to.
Rest in love, I’ll miss seeing your friendly face, and the ponies will no doubt miss you too.
Charlotte, Harry and Charley xxxx

Charlotte Scoles


Calder, my deepest sympathy for your loss. I have nothing but fond memories of Heather and the old rugby days and socialising that followed. I look back and it only seems like yesterday. My thoughts are with you and family.

Pete McMinn


Sending love to you Calder, and family. Great pipe and memories of Heather and her Rum. RIP Heather. All our love Sharryn Sexton (McDougall)

Sharryn Sexton


Heather, We did not know each other that long, but clicked from day one, that beaming smile and mischievous grin. Those few shifts were obviously meant to be. You selflessly gave all your heart to your lovely family, friends and anybody who needed a hand. You are a very special lady.
All our love goes to Calder and Whanau, thinking of you all. Rest Easy Heather, and Thank You.

Jason Plunkett (Idea Services)


We lost an angle and heaven gained one back

Janice England


To Calder and family, sorry to hear of the sad passing of Heather. Our thoughts are with you all. Melodie, Derek, Jai and Caleb


Heather you were my kindness lovng friend ,you were our angel on this earth , you loved and cared for so many people .
A very proud wife ,mother and Grandmother
Going to miss our chats and coffees and just being there for me in good times and bad .
Farewell my beautiful friend until we meet again. Now you are our angel in heaven .xxx

Jo Botting


Heather was a one in a million person, who had no end of energy and love for the many people in her life outside of her precious family. They were so important to her.
We found her to be so helpful, kind and caring towards us in that special calling of hers. Thank you Heather.
To Calder and family, thank you for sharing this special lady who touched so many people in her life.
With love, prayers and sincere sympathy,
Ann, Vince and Nick.

Ann Conaghan


Dear Heather
We will miss you. Your loyalty showed no bounds. Your himour was infectious.
Your warmth, kind heart and creativity was given unconditionally.
You have been my confidant, my voice of reason and my friend.
Our whanau , my whanau entwined through generations.
Your pride was your husband children and grandchildren, which you so spoke of so respectfully and with joy.
So often we ended our texts with nigh night.
Nigh night Heather
Love Jo Hone Binny and Ashlrigh God Bless You ❤️❤️❤️



If the world was full of Heathers, the world would be a beautiful place. An amazing lady, full of life, love and generosity.
My thoughts are with you Calder, family and friends.

Lee Smillie


Calder and family, we are so sad you have lost a wonderful wife, mother and grandmother with Heather's passing. We really enjoyed her company when we saw her. We hope the days ahead go well for all of you. Our kindest thoughts go to you all.
Alan and Lynne Hunt


Heather, you always shined so brightly. So bold and witty, you were so compassionate with such a loving heart. The way you cared for people and showed such kindness to those around you will always be remembered. The many times you had us in fits of laughter are memories I will always hold dearly. You had the ability to light up any room you were in with your sense of humor, your laughter, your cheekiness. The kids and I will miss you, and I will think of you often. You really were one of the good ones Heather, thank you for blessing us with the beautiful memories we will now hold close to our hearts. All of our love xxx

Bronwyn Keast


Heartfelt sympathies to you Calder and family.
We will treasure the memories of a beautiful human taken far too soon.
Only the good die young!!
Thinking of you all, with love.
Christine and Rodney xxx


All our love to you Calder and family. Heather certainly was one in a million. I have so many fond and funny memories of Heather and any time she pops into my thoughts I remember them and smile. She had the biggest, kindest heart and will be so very missed. All my love , Courtney xxx

Courtney Keast


Sending love and hugs to you Calder and family at this sad time❤️ fly high gorgeous lady 🪽xx

Julie and Bryce popham


If only the rest of the world showed love and compassion like Heather. The world would be a better place. Much love simonne and all her work mates at idea services

Simonne Hall

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